Holding Space and a Beginning
I can’t really describe the discussion we did at Pantheacon this year. Partly because I was channeling Crow in Warrior mode and it is difficult to remember things exactly, and partly because I am still trying to understand the effect it had on me.
Because I know, for a fact, that no one left that room unchanged in some way. Not even me.
What I do understand is that this is only the beginning. The beginning of the deeper conversation. The beginning of learning things about myself that I didn’t know before, or didn’t acknowledge. The beginning of the work of radical inclusion that is so desperately needed in all religions.
Was it perfect? No, of course not. We didn’t know who would show up or what would happen. It was stepping into the unknown, for all of us.
The biggest thing I remember though, is the beginning, where Sarah (who was also channeling Lilith, the Buddha, and Jesus) went around the room and said to each person as they introduced themselves:
“I love you unconditionally, and I surrender to your compassion.”
The energy shift in the room while she did this was palpable. How everyone received that, I don’t know. I do know that this was not a small thing.
I also know, that this is just the beginning.
We have a choice here. We can continue to be angry at each other, point fingers, and place blame. We can write angry words on the internet and speculate about who does what.
Believe me, I know about being angry. Sometimes letting it out is a good thing.
But the other option is to channel it into something more. You can let it become the passion that drives change.
I choose to channel this into the work of radical inclusion. I choose to recognize that everyone, of all races, genders, orientations, and creeds can sit at the table together. I choose to work for this in the pagan community because I know we can do better. I choose to work for this in the Christian community because I know we can do better.
But, being radically inclusive doesn’t mean we can’t be real. There are serious problems and deep wounds that need healing. These need to be aired out and discussed, then we can let them go.
This is not a comfortable process. Radical inclusion doesn’t mean that we kiss and make nice. It means we listen to what is being said and figure out how to make things better.
We are human. That means we make mistakes, screw up, and do really stupid things.
But the question is: do we learn from the mistakes we make?
Do we truly listen to people when they are hurt and angry?
Will you truly listen, or just react out of fear?
This is what we intended, this is what we brought with us.
Love is the law, love under will. Nor let the fools mistake love; for there are love and love. There is the dove, and there is the serpent. Choose ye well!